Before you say “yes” to helping, giving, or sacrificing, ask yourself:

1. Am I feeling pressured, rushed, or emotionally cornered?
    If yes → pause.
2. Have I asked a trusted advisor or friend for their perspective?
    If no → pause.
3. Would I want someone I love to say yes to this?
    If no → pause.
4. Do I feel guilty, afraid of rejection, or worried about what they’ll think if I say no?
    If yes → pause.
5. Is this request reasonable, reciprocal, and respectful of my boundaries?
    If no → pause.
6. Is this a pattern with this person? Am I always the one giving?
    If yes → pause.
7. Would I give this much if it weren’t someone I know (or someone I’ve gotten emotionally attached to)?
    If no → pause.
8. Am I risking my emotional, financial, or personal safety?
    If yes → pause.
9. Would I feel peace or resentment after giving?
    If resentment → pause.
10. Am I saying yes because I think it will earn me love, approval, or validation?
     If yes → pause.

✅ If you hit more than one pause — don’t give yet. Talk to someone you trust.